{"content":{"sharePage":{"page":0,"digests":[{"id":"44563056","dateCreated":"1319043550","smartDate":"Oct 19, 2011","userCreated":{"username":"dcfegley","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/dcfegley","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/pic\/1314805966\/dcfegley-lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/wellness2-section3.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/44563056"},"dateDigested":1531982440,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"10\/19 - on \"love\"","description":""Love means never having to say you're sorry"
\n-Love Story, 1970
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\nIf you want to see a trailer for the iconic romantic drama (and oh, it's a DRAMA), go here:
\nhttp:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=JASEIR8hjzk<\/a>
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\nDo you agree or disagree with the famous line? How does the situation change (if at all) if you consider romantic versus paternal love?","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[{"id":"44573060","body":"I disagree love means always having to say your sorry even if it isn't your fault.","dateCreated":"1319049590","smartDate":"Oct 19, 2011","userCreated":{"username":"durhamel","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/durhamel","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"}},{"id":"44573150","body":"I think regardless of what kind of love, there is always opportunity to say you are sorry. If you do something that hurts the other person, you should apologize. It is possible that you love someone but accidently hurt them so you should say sorry.","dateCreated":"1319049657","smartDate":"Oct 19, 2011","userCreated":{"username":"sonia.kumar","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/sonia.kumar","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"}},{"id":"44573170","body":"I disagree. Being able to admit your wrong shows you can enough to let yourself be vulnerable. Apologizing is a form of affection. It shows you care.","dateCreated":"1319049668","smartDate":"Oct 19, 2011","userCreated":{"username":"QuinnMc","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/QuinnMc","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"}},{"id":"44573188","body":"I disagree with this statement in the case of a romantic relationship because you could do something really terrible, um let's say murder their brother, and you should definitely say you are sorry, something that terrible is not excused by the concept of "love". But I think the love shared in a relationship shared between a parent and a child is closer to not having to say you are sorry because it is a different kind of love shared. But still I think apologies are really easily thrown around so they may not mean much to a person anyway.","dateCreated":"1319049680","smartDate":"Oct 19, 2011","userCreated":{"username":"MariaRizzo10","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/MariaRizzo10","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"}},{"id":"44573320","body":"i disagree. people do bad things and then you have to say sorry","dateCreated":"1319049765","smartDate":"Oct 19, 2011","userCreated":{"username":"caleaere","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/caleaere","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"}},{"id":"44573394","body":"I disagree. "if you say "sorry" you obviously care." - Matt Obrien. How can't you disagree with that? If you don't say sorry, you don't love.
\nIt doesn't change from romantic to paternal because you still are caring about the person.","dateCreated":"1319049831","smartDate":"Oct 19, 2011","userCreated":{"username":"szumel.gregory","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/szumel.gregory","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"}},{"id":"44573530","body":"I agree with what they are trying to say in the movie, which is that if you love someone, that is all that matters. In particular, when the older man is about to say sorry that the woman died, but the main character interjects,"Love... Love means never having to say you're sorry" by this he meant that he still loves her and that is all that matters. However, I think that in a relationship of any kind, you need to say you are sorry. It is just common courtesy.","dateCreated":"1319049955","smartDate":"Oct 19, 2011","userCreated":{"username":"AlfredoWoodward","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/AlfredoWoodward","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"}},{"id":"44573892","body":"I disagree with this famous line because to say your sorry means asking for forgiveness , and caring enough to make the other person feel better. Although you can love someone , you can also do something to hurt them. Everyone makes mistakes and love doesn't change that.","dateCreated":"1319050262","smartDate":"Oct 19, 2011","userCreated":{"username":"kalaitzoglouel","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/kalaitzoglouel","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"}},{"id":"44574012","body":"I disagree with this quote. I know someone who never apologizes, and it feels as though they don't acknowledge that they did anything wrong. I feel like if you actually loved someone you would want them to know that you thought that you were wrong.","dateCreated":"1319050353","smartDate":"Oct 19, 2011","userCreated":{"username":"mrmpurple","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/mrmpurple","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"}},{"id":"44574082","body":"An extension: Love is complex emotion that involves both love and hate. occasionally you might take a misstep and cause the other person pain or anguish. if you really care you will say sorry- sorry can't fix a problem but it reassures the other person and lets them know that you were wrong. Telepathy isn't possible so you have to express your emotions even if it means saying sorry.","dateCreated":"1319050404","smartDate":"Oct 19, 2011","userCreated":{"username":"durhamel","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/durhamel","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"}},{"id":"44574120","body":"An old friend once told me, " If you say "sorry" you obviously care," and I agree with this statement completely. There is nothing wrong with apologizing, and just because you apologize doesn't mean what you have is not love. It's quite the opposite.","dateCreated":"1319050431","smartDate":"Oct 19, 2011","userCreated":{"username":"T.Connelly","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/T.Connelly","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"}},{"id":"44574252","body":"An old friend once told me, "if you say "sorry" you obviously care," and I agree with this statement completely. There is nothing wrong with apologizing, and just because you apologize doesn't mean what you have is not love. It's quite the opposite.","dateCreated":"1319050543","smartDate":"Oct 19, 2011","userCreated":{"username":"T.Connelly","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/T.Connelly","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"}}],"more":10}]},{"id":"44397528","dateCreated":"1318865326","smartDate":"Oct 17, 2011","userCreated":{"username":"dcfegley","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/dcfegley","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/pic\/1314805966\/dcfegley-lg.jpg"},"monitored":false,"locked":false,"links":{"self":"https:\/\/wellness2-section3.wikispaces.com\/share\/view\/44397528"},"dateDigested":1531982441,"startDate":null,"sharedType":"discussion","title":"Welcome to Wellness!","description":"We just talked about "I Statements" in class. Do you think you already use this communication tool in every day conflict resolution? How so? If not- how do you think you will use "I statements" (if at all) in the future?","replyPages":[{"page":0,"digests":[{"id":"44442328","body":"Using "I statements " doesn't necessarily work with everyone. Some people like to take things hands on in a discussion than in a peaceful manner where you express your feelings. I think that using this with someone who will take it seriously like a teacher or a parent , would make it effective but as both will and nikki said if it is with a friend and you are joking around it most likely will not work. I think that in the future "I statements " could become really effective, but it has to be with the right person in order to work because everyone has their own way of resolving problems.","dateCreated":"1318899520","smartDate":"Oct 17, 2011","userCreated":{"username":"kalaitzoglouel","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/kalaitzoglouel","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"}},{"id":"44513052","body":"Wow- to agree with everyone here, yes "I Statements" probably will not work with friends. But it could possibly work as long as you try to make the other person feel as bad as possible. If you tell a teacher they are "singling you out" or you feel "neglected or unimportant" you will probably get what you want especially in the form of "I Statements" SO in the future I will attempt to use "I Statements" while talking with teachers.","dateCreated":"1318979910","smartDate":"Oct 18, 2011","userCreated":{"username":"MariaRizzo10","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/MariaRizzo10","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"}},{"id":"44515458","body":"I have to agree with everyone, that "I Statements" are not for all situations. I do, however, use them in my life. I do not use the exact format we discussed in class, but I use the basic idea: respectfully state your feelings, the problem, and a solution. As some have said, tone can be very important when using "I Statements". If you are not careful, the message can come across as sarcastic and insincere. While the exact phrasing is not always appropriate, the principles of "I Statements" are useful nearly all of the time.","dateCreated":"1318981906","smartDate":"Oct 18, 2011","userCreated":{"username":"ChaseConley","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/ChaseConley","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/pic\/1349621411\/ChaseConley-lg.jpg"}},{"id":"44572860","body":"i do not use i statements and have not in the past. i think they are good in conception but if you use the generic formula it wont sound meaningful or heartfelt it will dry. in a real discussion use i would use a similar format that enables me to get the same point across without having to use this format. i would use hear and soul.","dateCreated":"1319049460","smartDate":"Oct 19, 2011","userCreated":{"username":"durhamel","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/durhamel","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"}},{"id":"44573108","body":"I don't think I use "I" statements normally. I feel like using such a plain and dry format to express yourself would just make you sound sarcastic. Why would I choose to tell someone how I feel using a format that doesn't show very much emotion?","dateCreated":"1319049624","smartDate":"Oct 19, 2011","userCreated":{"username":"mrmpurple","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/mrmpurple","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"}},{"id":"44573134","body":"I use "I statements" to talk about problems I have with people and not provoke them. I don't think that they are for every situation and you have to be careful about the tone you use. I think that I statements do have a practical use.","dateCreated":"1319049644","smartDate":"Oct 19, 2011","userCreated":{"username":"Tha..Matt..OBrien","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/Tha..Matt..OBrien","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"}},{"id":"44573400","body":"i concur","dateCreated":"1319049842","smartDate":"Oct 19, 2011","userCreated":{"username":"caleaere","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/caleaere","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"}},{"id":"44573418","body":"I don't think I use I statement. To me "I" seem to formal. I don't think people would take me seriously if I used "I" statements.","dateCreated":"1319049851","smartDate":"Oct 19, 2011","userCreated":{"username":"QuinnMc","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/QuinnMc","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"}},{"id":"44573522","body":"I have not used "I" statements consciously before. I think they can only be effective in certain situations. I feel that they are useful incases of problems between friends. However, between child and parent I don't think this would work because parents are too authoritative and wouldnt listen.","dateCreated":"1319049944","smartDate":"Oct 19, 2011","userCreated":{"username":"sonia.kumar","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/sonia.kumar","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"}},{"id":"44573640","body":"I think "I statements" are pretty cool. Though, I've never actually used the secret formula, I'm sure i've used essentially the same thing in an argument before. I guess it'd get pretty annoying if you were just throwing around "I statements" all the time, especially with your friends. Use it wisely...","dateCreated":"1319050084","smartDate":"Oct 19, 2011","userCreated":{"username":"T.Connelly","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/T.Connelly","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"}},{"id":"44573906","body":"i am sorry. i have been told that my previous response wasnt quite up to par. I believe that I statements work and I disagree with Eliza because i have found the exact oposite results","dateCreated":"1319050271","smartDate":"Oct 19, 2011","userCreated":{"username":"caleaere","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/caleaere","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"}},{"id":"44574324","body":"I don't think I've ever used I statements before, but maybe something around those lines. I think that I should try to concentrate on using I statments more though, they make sense.","dateCreated":"1319050601","smartDate":"Oct 19, 2011","userCreated":{"username":"szumel.gregory","url":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/user\/view\/szumel.gregory","imageUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikispaces.com\/i\/user_none_lg.jpg"}}],"more":3}]}],"more":false},"comments":[]},"http":{"code":200,"status":"OK"},"redirectUrl":null,"javascript":null,"notices":{"warning":[],"error":[],"info":[],"success":[]}}